Someone once told me that women are soft and most of them easily fall in love. That women are emotional and often times misinterpret it when guys are too sweet and caring to them.
Now, allow me to share something personal here in this post. When I was still in my ‘teen’ days, just like other girls, I also experienced liking someone whom I know will never like me back. I experienced being used by someone just because they’re brokenhearted or even ‘bored’. I experienced being the only one who’s making an effort to make things work. Oops, did I already mentioned that I am NBSB? Meaning to say, I’ve been into relationships without any labels. Familiar? Been there? Believe me, there are so much more to share and these are only few of them.
Honestly, because of these experiences I felt like I didn’t want to get married anymore or I have even become afraid to love. I had questions like, ‘when will that day come wherein it’s time for me to receive love in return?’, ‘Is there even a person who never plays with my feelings?’. So many questions that hindered me from living. So many pain that stopped me from believing. So many people who made me stop trusting. I became broken. Deep within, I was searching for love.
Until one day, I have come to a point of realizing that the love that I was ‘searching’ for was there with me all along. I didn’t know that the love I was looking for was already existing before I even existed. I became busy looking love from this world where in fact Someone already showed it more than 2000 years ago. Someone already did everything to win my heart. Someone endured all the pain just to show how serious He is about me. Someone who loved me and continues to love me despite my flaws. Someone who will be with me in every step. His name? JESUS. He showed me that he doesn’t just fix broken hearts but he gives a new one. He showed me that he’s the only one who can make me strong when I’m weak. He made me live, believe, and trust again. I am now whole. I stopped searching because I finally found what I was looking for.
Ladies, this is my word for you:
No person or material can ever satisfy you or love you back the way Jesus loves you. This world offers so many things but know that you deserve God’s best. You don’t need a one slice of pizza for a buffet that’s waiting for you. You are a daughter of a King, and every king wants the best man for his daughter. A king doesn’t just give away his daughter because he’s good looking or physically appealing, he’s after a man with a good heart. Believe me, you are not wasting your time when you start to believe for a man who loves God above anything else in this world. A man who’s living in obedience and not in convenience. A man who’s eyes is fixed on Jesus. A man who will even stay even if you’re becoming loud, irritable or hard to understand at times. A man who will not run away from your fights or problems but will come to you and resolve things in prayer. You deserve someone who’s like in 1 Corinthians 13:4-6,
“A man who is patient, kind. Someone who does not envy, does not boast, not proud. 5 Someone who does not dishonor others, not self-seeking, not easily angered, doesn’t keeps record of wrongs. 6 Someone who does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 He always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” (Emphasis mine)
It doesn’t matter if you’re the only single in your squad, you can still live your life because having a boyfriend or husband (according to married couples) is not the end goal. This season is a season to grow in your character because that’s what matters most. Stop searching for love because love came for you. Receive it because that’s the only love you need.